I totally agree with what you are saying--your needs are every bit as important as his.
I guess I was confused on what you said to him. If you said, What do you think of our relationship and how I am trying to meet your needs? then I think his answer was ok. That is, he was answering that question.
If you asked about your own needs, then yes he should have done a better job of addressing that.
Have you said to him what you need from the R and how has he responded to this request?
Isn't it funny how we all seem to think, I want xyz need met and met yesterday and oh by the way, you want WHAT?!?!? LOL When I first realized what my H's need was, I felt like Oh crap I cannot do that. But at the same time, I felt "he better meet my needs". What a turd, huh. I still am guilty of that, simply because it is not in his nature to tell me straight out what he needs from me, therefore I have a tendency to forget since I'm the only one reminding me.
It is hard work meeting your spouse's needs cause in some kinda sick joke, God seems to have made it so that opposites attract and it's the one thing that you just don't wanna do.
