Chrissy: I think it's great that you were able to share your post with your H. His reaction to the words is not your responsibility. He needs to deal with your very reasonable request to dial it down a couple of notches.
One of my W's complaints is that, if she ever did try to "meet my needs," I would start expecting ML more and more often. It's called the "moving target" problem, and she comes up with the, "I'll never make you happy, so why even try?" response.
All you can do is clearly and honestly let your H know what your feelings are about this issue; let him know what turns you on, and what turns you off; and hope he understands.
