Chrissy your organizational skills are very good. You put names on problems and names/steps on goals. You also realise you can't make anyone else do much of anything and healing yourself is your main goal. You are a valuable poster on this board. I am glad you are continuing to post.

Step Six to read the dictionary my spelling sucks.
Lots of us have that problem. I know I should follow my own advice sometimes, but here goes.

If you write your post using your wordprocessor and do the editing/spelling there, your spelling should not be an issue. After everything is checked using your wordprocessor, then you can copy it and paste it here in the reply box.

Lou