How Do You Cope?

[Dmsw4]

There might be a cause, but it shouldn't take over our lives. I think of past relationships that start out so hot and heavy. Can't get enough of each other, wanna do it all the time. Then I start thinking, gee, all this fooling around has really cut into my sleep time, or the dishes are not getting done, or my other friends and familyl are starting to miss me, or a hundred other things that start to float to the surface after that initial hot and heavy period starts to wear off. But I would want my man to stay sweet on me, not get all pissy that real life has interfered in his dream of a perfect sex life. Guide me back gently, help me with my chores, dance with me in the kitchen, play with me so I don't get caught up in the drudgery of it all. Like french kissing, follow me out and lead me back in. (oh it's been a long time)

I think another of my problems is that I come on strong at the beginning. I used to make things so easy for H. I would meet him at work with picnic lunches. I would drive to see him where he lived way out in the country. I did most of the R work at the beginning. I remember showing up in a nice little sundress, very chaste looking then told him what I wasn't wearing underneath it all.

It just gets hard to keep it up when you're the one doing all the work. Fun for him, but what was in it for me? He wasn't doing all the driving. He didn't bring me picnic lunches. I let him get used to me doing all the work and then I got tired of it. So I stopped. I guess that's not fair either, but by then we were married, started having kids, my list of chores was getting longer, or at least my list of excuses, hormones were out of whack...but, I do have to say that he never got the hint that I needed him to pick up some of the slack.

I don't complain, well, here I do, and I don't argue, except here sometimes, but not with H. I think I changed the rules without letting him know. That's not fair of me, but is it ALL my fault?

Does any of this make sense?