Yes and no - right now, she really is too busy for counseling. That hasn't always been the case though.
Whenever I try to discuss our problems (specifically the lack of a SL), she either says that she doesn't want to talk about it, period, or we discuss it for a few minutes, rehashing the same things we've said every other time until she says "I don't want to talk about it anymore." This happened last night (after I asked for S again).
The frustrating thing is, she's been a sympathetic ear to a friend who is really suffering from the fallout related to an affair she had with a guy in our horse club. Nearly everone in the club is ostracizing her or being cruel, but my W has been non-judgmental and willing to talk with this woman about her situation. In fact, she was on a call with her last night for nearly an hour! So although she may not have time to see a counselor, there's definitely time in our lives to discuss our R problems. Unfortunately, every time we do, we never get to anything of any significance (I complain about the problem, she acknowledges it exists, I ask for solutions/expectations, she says "don't know, don't want to talk about anymore."
