Quote: I'll be honest with you, Lil, I'm biting my tongue not to light into you and paste a few labels on you. But I recognize that that is my anger talking and it's usually best not to give into it.
So, what do you get out of it, what does it accomplish and why are you doing it?
MrsNOP -
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Mrs. NOP, you know what? You're right. He is sick. I am sick for staying with him. I'm sure I get something out of it-- but whatever I get is sick.
I wasn't clear in what I wrote. My intention was not to ask why you are doing what you do with your BF. I intended to ask you why you seem so determined to apply your negative labels in the guise of determining patterns.
From Gross Generalizations So far you've managed to use lazy, immature, selfish, only want to be taken care of, overly sensitive, overly defensive, abnormal.
How exactly does this assist you or anyone on this board to resolve their sexual issues?
I wrote to you earlier, "My concern is what seems to be an ongoing attempt to find a common LD meta-cause from which you can find a solution to your specific relationship problem."
And Corri has asked: "What I would very much like to know is where is all this generalizing getting you? How's it solving your problem?
My guess is it's getting you nowhere. And that's my point."
FWIW, I think you get ticked off at your boyfriend, don't want to express it out loud, attempt to diffuse it by slapping at LD people in general, while deceiving yourself that you're only doing it to gain greater understanding.
