FWIW, I agree with you. There is very little I can think of that would be more threatening to someone, or put them in a more defensive stance than calling them...."not normal" or "abnormal".
Take my H for example....he's had a VERY low SD...almost a non-existent one basically for as long as I've known him....and according to him for as long as he can remember....so for him the way he feels, the way he desires....is normal for him. I can only imagine how he started feeling when I started bringing up the issue that I wasn't satisfied with our SL.
I used to be someone who would be fine with sex once a month or even once every two months (hence a great deal of my frustration now since I'm no longer that way)....had someone told me back then I wasn't normal.....man! I'd have dug my heels in and hung on for dear life. "How dare someone call me "not normal"!!!"
Personally I believe this is where a great deal of my H's resistence is coming from right now....that and the fact that the doesn't buy the "use it or lose it" frame of thinking.
