I've got a reservation in at the library for The Five Love Languages (must be popular...all 15 copies are out!). Should be available next week.
I've been really making effort to avoid looking at porn on the computer - it's not helpful to our R, she doesn't want it, and I actually notice myself getting less out of it. It would be nice to see a non-digital woman nude again someday...
Have been following the suggestions about alternate activities to help cope with the lack of a SL - working out helps, and the beer prior to bed (had 3 last night!) definitely works, but I don't want that to be any regular or long-term solution! Hope that others in my sitch are finding positive ways to deal with it, as well. It's too easy to fall into self-pity, bitterness, and anger. I have to keep reminding myself that doing that doesn't produce the results I want, and often worsens the sitch.
