Whew, thanks for the back up amd! I suggest that H could use a break too just because I've been on that end myself. Caring for someone while they couldn't do it for themselves, as well as take on all of their responsibilities. And my mom was there as well when my stepdad had many heart surgeries. Everyone swooned around him while my mom was barely coping for herself. I tried to be there for her too, and she really appreciated that. So, just maybe, like amd said, there's someone around that could give H a night off, and he could spend it how it he wants, or - sitting at your bedside keeping you company! I really do empathize with you, I was laid up for just a couple weeks a few years ago and it drove me nuts!

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