Dear Sage, Congrats to you! I see you are super busy. Any chance you can stop by my thread? I am at a loss right now. Don't know what to do. Thank you, karen812
Sage, My goodness you've certainly made some great strides since my last visit to these boards, which was around 1 1/2 yrs ago. I don't even remember what my 'screen name' was back then. Here you are today, still married, a new mom and a board Moderator WOW. I'm so proud of your successes and so thrilled to see that you too survived. Jan
Just popping in. Thanks for the continued well wishes everyone.
Willwwalk -- You said you couldn't imagine having a young child now -- honestly, there's no way I could have imagined having a child much before this -- I wasn't ready, h wasn't ready, our M wasn't ready...plus I'm in much better shape now at 39 than at any point in my 20s!
Had a big u/s this week that showed that we're having a girl! We would have been delighted either way, to be sure. Things look good!
Things with h are great. We're in a good space right now...doing well respecting each others needs, definitely in "teamwork" mode as far as the new addition, etc. In a couple of days it will be 3 years since DDay. How far we've come. How lucky I am.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Hi Sage- I used to check your thread everyday but then work and life got busy and I didn't have the time.
Congratulations on your wonderful news!! You are going to have a blast.
I'm still over on the MLC board and having mostly ups with my situation (even though this weekend is a bit of a problem for me).
Also, my H and I are expecting our second child in March. So we can compare notes later. And I have been in a new position with my same company for about 1.5 months. I broke the news to my new boss a few weeks ago. He was okay when I said that I definitely will return with a full schedule.
Just stopping by to say "hi" and bump you to page 1!
Hope everything is going well with you, H and sage Jr.
Please update us when you have some time!
See ya, SP
According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."
Thanks for the bumps up, folks! I appreciate seeing myself on page 1 even if I'm a total slacker!
Things are good -- busy at work (but going well), all appears well with the baby girl. I'm halfway through which makes me feel like I have plenty of time left for prep and hardly any time left at the same time.
Home has been good but stressful. TBH, I've found myself slipping into some old bad habits again which has definitely created some negativity in the house (it's scary how quickly the old cycles can return!). Mostly the bad habits have centered around my need for things to be done RIGHT NOW while h has a more laidback approach. I've found myself editing him again, maybe not even listening at times.
The good thing is that I SEE it and can stop it and we've even talked about it a bit but it's still scary stuff.
Yikes, I've gotta take h to the train...more later.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Sage, I know you are busy and about to be busier!! But I feel like our sitch are so similar, only I am about a year and half behind you and your H!! I was wondering when those thoughts or "anxieties" about H and OW passed. Its been almost 2 years since "the bomb" (in March), but OW has been out of our life since last Sept. The thing that stinks with our situation is that H is friens with OW's family and the ones that he is closet to, dont know about the affair. Sooooooooooo...we find ourselves getting together with OW's sister and her fiance and now being invited to their wedding, which I hear will be a "small" wedding, meaning wont be a lot of other people for us to hang out with...and OW will be there....BLECH! So, because of this, I am feeling very insecure, and its nothing my H is doing, its just a lot of things bring back bad memories and then I seem to "dream up" bad things happening. Is this something you went through and how did you deal with it?
and bump you to page 1!
