Quote: Have you asked h what his concerns are? Care to share what the conversations are like?
Well, in the past year, I have only brought it up 2x and they have both been when we have been drinking, and its kind of hazy what was all said. I know that I am afraid to talk to him about it, obviously why I bring it up after I have been drinking.
I am not exactly sure what H concerns are. I remember before the affair, when we talked about it, I had mentioned that I was afraid that it might be hard for me to get pregnant..not sure why, I just mentioned it. Then at the time, we both knew someone who had miscarried. Well, I think I worried H by saying, "I dont know how I could handle it if that would happen to me" I think that scared him. I think that if it would be hard for me to get pregnant or something happened, he thinks I would become a "mental case" Honestly, back then, I might have, but after all that I have gone through in the past 2 years and how close I have come to God, I think I would be able to handle if somemthing happened or DIDNT happen much better.
I like how you brought up the subject...sounds like a good way for me to go about it also. For one, it takes the pressure off him if he is really not wanting kids by saying,
Quote: I'd like to talk about whether or not we're going to have kids...
and also the biological clock factor too..I just turned 33..so I am getting up there!
I just never know when the right time is..but it sounds like your H is like mine. If I want to talk about something or want to plan something, I have to bring it up little bits at a time, until H is ready to talk about it. Its like it gives him time to think about what he really wants or what he wants to do.
