So how do you make H feel needed? I am focusing on his needs as much as I can, but I'm still looking for practical ideas to help me do this. I ask for help getting high things down, for hauling heavy things, etc. This seems so superficial, but he's happy to do them. I feel like I also need deeper stuff, so I ask for advice about work. What else do DBing women do to address this? It feels like a weird question to ask, but obviously I wasn't doing such a hot job before.
