OK, I do have this book, but it has mixed reviews:

SURVIVING YOUR SPOUSE'S CHRONIC ILLNESS


"The emotional and psychological impact of caring for a chronically ill spouse. When one's spouse is diagnosed with a serious illness, two lives are devastated. The partner is a victim, too. Author Chris McGonigle, who was a well spouse for fifteen years, draws on her own personal experience and on that of the many other men and women whom she interviewed and who spoke frankly to her about what it is really like to take care of a chronically ill spouse. Her honest book reassures readers that they are not alone in what they feel and are going through. The topics covered include initial reaction to the diagnosis; denial; communication; what losing the sexual part of marriage means; anger; violence; parenting; and spirituality. A final section tells where to turn for help. Through the wisdom and compassion of the many voices in the book, readers will learn how others cope and what they themselves can do to survive."

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Michele, we are going to need a DVD seminar on this subject soon. The baby boomer generation is aging and we are many!!