My H and I have been putting our M back together for a year now. One of our issues was a SSM. Kids, jobs, stress, etc... came along. My once HD H is now a LD H. I'm not sure I get it. I know depression lowers SD. I have tried to return to the way we use to be. That is spontaneous, hot, S. I bought new sexy lingerie and lost 30lbs. Feeling good about myself these days until my H falls asleep in the chair by 9:30. We still have to wait until the kids go to bed but sometimes lock ourselves in our room, (one day the closet) when the kids are preoccupied. We used to have great S. I know age has a lot to do with SD. Can a male that had a really HD become LD just solely on age? My H is only 35. My H and I went through a terrible time last year and on the verge of a D. My H had an EA( still not convinced there was not a PA too). When I get dressed up and practically throw myself at him, and he falls asleep, it only makes me think that the he isn't over the OW. I know there is no contact. I unforntunately still snoop sometimes. He comes home when he is supposed to and it seems that she is completely, physically gone. My H's sudden change in D still makes me wonder if I will ever make him happy again or if he will ever look at me the way he used to. This is one piece of my M that still needs a lot of work.
Advice from any guys or women that have had this experience would be very helpful. You can read my ugly story from the thread below.
