Quote: Can someone give any advice on how to get through this? Has anyone had the divorce filed but then the WAS decides that they want to work on their M? Or should I just give up all hope that my H may change his mind and not want the divorce?
How to get through this? You can only look after yourself, be as positive as possible, and as strong as you can be. Your H is going to do what he is going to do. The only way you can hope to change his mind is by being an attractive alternative to divorce.
As far as anyone stopping the divorce there isn't any here that I know of. But does the divorce mean that you are done? Does that piece of paper say that there is no hope for getting back together? Perhaps if you carry the positives forward then there is hope after divorce. There are a number of those stories floating around where people got remarried and that includes people that didn't DB. It probably depends on the extent of the damage and how well you are able to show your H what a wonderful person you are.
Perhaps it might help to think now that divorce isn't the end all so you don't have to stress so much that it is over the minute a judge signs off on the D. It's just a step on an already difficult road.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
