kaydeekay, Sorry to hear about your situation. You sound as if you are dealing with the situation in the best way possible. Be very proud of that.
I'm not going to knock Dbing, because it gives us all some really pratical relationship advice. The only problem I see is the message is being delivered too late to save many relationships. I've been Dbing about a year. If I had started about 3 years ago, I might still have a relationship, but 3 years ago I didn't know we were in trouble. Anyway, to answer your question very few folks are getting back together. But using the tools is enabling us to live better, happier more fullfilling lives. As far as the relationship goes, we are leaving the door open by keeping a PMA towards ourselves and X's. I know that if I took a bad attitude towards her it would only hurt our boys. I will not do that, this whole thing has hurt them enough. It is extremely difficult to keep a PMA knowing that there is another person involved. But, there's really nothing we can do about that. I have maintained a kind of friendship with her. Without the Dbing, that probably would not have happened. Hang in there, and stay on that high road.
