I'm sorry I haven't been on your thread lately, and I went on today to try to catch up with what was going on in the Pot household, and I find you've gone "Chocolateeyes" on me.
It really sucks when you're the one who has to do all of the R heavy lifting, doesn't it. I feel your hurt, and offer you e-hugs and e-chocolate.
I do suspect that us HDs sometimes smother what little sexual flame is there in our LD spouse. I KNOW I have done that with my wife, and it's contributed to my sexless marriage. Whether we are unhappy or even HAPPY, we come on too strong, and freak them out... spook 'em.
"I Just Don't Care Anymore", daily, is a pretty good place. The grass isn't quite as green, the sun not quite as warm, and the birds don't sound quite as beautiful. But there are very sad, very lonely days if you choose to stay here.
"Working at It Constantly" is a much better place on the GOOD days, but there are so many days that are just horrendous and painful.
Corri is so right... we are the "Fixers," and I suspect that you will wander back and forth between the two Places. Whichever place you choose, you have friends here who will listen and offer you our encouragement.
Chocolateeyes
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Artist: R.E.M.
Song: Everybody Hurts
(Berry/Buck/Mills/Stipe)
When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,
When you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on
Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes
Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along
When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go, (hold on)
When you think you've had too much of this life, well hang on
'Cause everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts. Don't throw your hand. Oh, no. Don't throw your hand
If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no, you are not alone
If you're on your own in this life, the days and nights are long,
When you think you've had too much of this life to hang on
Well, everybody hurts sometimes,
Everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts. You are not alone
