Here is an interesting convo I had while on a playdate Wednesday with 3 of my sisters and a cousin. One of the gals was griping because her husband wants her to fix his lunch every day. She was incredulous that he'd ask for this. The conversation went round and round and finally I piped up and said, If this is all he asks for, what's the big deal? Make his lunch..how hard can it be?
Stunned silence.
More grousing about what a turkey he was for asking for this and I again said, You know...it IS pretty crazy that he'd make such an issue of it...I mean, Husband meet Mayo, Bread and Lunchmeat, right. But really why not try making his lunches for a couple weeks and see what happens? So he's being a baby, big deal. Sometimes we do things for the other person that we personally find ludicrous but it makes them happy so we do it.
Stunned silence again.
I looked around the table and half yelled, Am I the only person who thinks this way??
After a few grumblings about "oh I guess it will be just like our sex life, then.." the convo died.
I found it curious that these modern-day women fully expect their husband to bring them flowers from time to time, and buy them sappy cards for their anniversary, etc, all things that dudes could give a rip less about, but GASP the thought of doing something for their H's that they don't feel is technically in their job description is out of the question.
I used to think this way, myself.
However, Mel, I hope you realize this is NOT directed at you. I agree 100% that fixing your H breakfast would not have prevented his decision to fritter away the last two years. I just found it incredible that these women (who are all the LD partners in their marriages, incidentally) expect so much from their mates and give back so little. And yet the testosterone pulls the guys back to them, again and again. Amazing. That is so not my experience. Some days I feel very much as if I have to "buy" my H's affection and devotion with my other qualities cause I have no sexual leverage whatsoever.
