"Going Dark" - 101

[xalelle]

Do I allow H to go or tell him no and hurt my D9

I would look at this this way - #1 do everything you can to not hurt D9 - if she would like him there, let him be there.

#2 this is an oportunity for being together that you CANNOT talk about R - make sure you dont! Just enjoy the outing. Be like you are out with friends.

I for one would love for this kind of opportunity in my R.

Good luck