My H does not get enough sleep. Let me start by saying that. However, it is becoming increasingly hard for me to sympathize and accept this, given that he intentionally sets his day up like this:
Up at 5:15, out the door by 5:45. Mass at 6:20 Leave for work at 7:00 am. Work from 7:30 til 5. Home at 5:30-5:45, depending on traffic. Supper at 6:00 Cleanup/Play with little ones til 7:00 or so. Bath at 7:30 Kids' bedtime at 8:30 MrHP showers at 8:45 MrH either: Goes to bed at 9:00 (his ideal) OR MrH watches movie until 9:30 or 9:45.
His ideal bedtime is 9:00 pm, but it has been a long time since we were able to pull that off. He used to go to bed immediately following kids going to bed but I put up enough of a stink that he no longer does this.
Nowadays he will only ML if it is before 10:00.
He sleeps most nights from 10 until 5 the next morning. When we ML, I'd say we are sleeping by 10:30. I DO realize that this is not enough sleep (I'd feel like crud if I got this much sleep on a regular basis).
What should I do? Continue to sympathize with him and allow him to ignore me?
Incidentally, he does not have to be at work until 8:30 but he doesn't want to miss Mass so he goes in an hour early.
He fits in what he deems a priority, is what chaps me. Then he wants to cry "sleepy!" and shut me out, at night.
In all the years we've been working on this, this is one thing that he will NOT see my side on. At all. He wants to cram all that into his day AND go to bed early AND have me be happy with the amount of energy he puts towards our R.
