Lately my H is horny at bedtime, but doesn't want to ML.
What do I make of this? Any suggestions what I should do/say?
He is hard, he touches me lightly, but will not initiate. If I attempt to do it, he says, No it's too late; I want to go to sleep.
Then the next morning he talks about how horny he was and wishes it hadn't been so late.
What IS this? I'd say it's happened 4 times within the past week, to give you an idea of how frequent it is happening.
One night I said to him: H, if I were you, and did not feel horny as frequently as my spouse, and this was an issue, I think I would act on those urges instead of waiting for the next night, when you may or may not feel it. It seems that you are getting into the habit of ignoring your body. Do you think this is a good habit to get into?
He said, No, but maintained that either it's too late to ML or it's early enough to fit it in. It doesn't matter how horny a person is, if it's too late, it's too late.
As you can guess, I'm not overly fond of this logic but not sure what to do with it.
He is a rigid person. Not spontaneous, likes routine and resists change. I can generally nudge him out of this, and he likes that. I have historically been unsuccessful in nudging him at bedtime.
I suppose he is doing what I asked him to...touch me even if it can't lead to ML, caress me, give me that lovely PT. But in reality I find it confusing and frustrating to have a man next to me who is hard and turned on, but so consumed with the time on the clock that he opts for sleep instead.
The fused part of me starts thinking, If I was more attractive or sexy, he wouldn't be able to do that.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this? Just leave it alone?
