That's because what the HD person wants is unattainable, really.
I want H to agree to more sex but I want him to WANT that additional sex. If he doesn't want the current amount, why on earth would he want the additional stuff?
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If you don't want addt'l sex and are satisfied with quality over quantity, this is an even scarier proposition to the LD person. Now they can't "just do it", it has to be a quality-filled sextravaganza.
This is compounded if you are an HDW, as the fellas can't just "do it". There has to be a certain amount of arousal present for the event to take place.
I really do sympathize with the LD partners. It's like my H saying to me: I want you to have spiritual discussions with me, but furthermore I want you to WANT to have these discussions with me and initiate them yourself. When we DO have the discussions, I want you to think of original topics and interesting angles from which to approach it.
I have to say that I do look forward to our discussions sometimes. It used to be NEVER and I would be hateful and relentingly-devils-advocate-ish when conversing with him. I regret this. How sad and empty it must have felt for him to rush home to share with me, only to be met with THAT.
Now we have the discussions and, though I rarely initiate them--I'll have to work on that--I enjoy it.
HOWEVER, do I want more?
Only in the sense that I see how happy it makes him. I truly do not feel the urge to initiate a religious conversation. I do it because I love to see him happy and content.
