Have you ever told her this? Does she know how long you can go without getting what I call physically crabby? This might be a place to start.
For some weird reason, my H still wants to think that we experience the down cycles in the same way...that I get 'distracted' by life and busy weeks and that I, too, prefer to put it off. It's weird. Man, if I felt like that I sure as hell wouldn't be on this bb!
Things continue to go well here, in terms of us trying to do right by each other's feelings. In practical terms, that means that we ML on Sat and Sun and then Mon night, MrH was stalling so I offered a rain check for Tues. Tuesday night rolls around and he asks if we can ML Wed. I said, Okaay. (I can't remember my exact verbiage but it was super nice and a definite 180 for me..felt good) Wednesday night rolls around and.....ok, do I even have to post this part? Is everyone looking at their monitor and syaing, Don't say it Honeypot..he asked for another raincheck?! Yes he did.
There is both positive and negative here. Firstly he agreed to have a celebratory sexathon--it was his idea, in fact--and have sex 3 days in a row. We did not accomplish this BUT he has brought it up every night. No more of this "Make a promise, want to renege, keep silent and hope she forgets". So that is a positive. The negative is, of course, that he has now put me off more nights than he ML.
We got home late last night, as we took the kids to the county fair, and he said, Well I wish we could have done something tonight... I replied, Didn't you think of this when you begged off last night and asked to do it tonight? He said, No.
So I don't think it is that he is necessarily wanting to do it the next night, it is just something to say to get me temporarily off his back. How romantic!
However, I am going to take this opp to pat myself on the back. I have been nothing but cheerful and kind to him since our last discussion.
It was a freeing discussion for me, in that up until now we both put pressure on me to be happy with whatever he offered sexually because he was trying. Just saying, It is nice and I love him to bits for making it a priority but I'm not over the moon with that particular frequency. As you noted, GGB, what he wants of me is a bit unrealistic unless he's willing to really step up to the plate. He sure seemed like he was willing to do that last weekend! This week has NOT bowled me over, but I am going to treat it like it was just a fluke and assume that from here on out, it's going to be wonderful. In other words, I'm going to hold him to his own words by my actions and acting as if.
