Yeah, you know some people have told me that it is not necessary that he "get it". And, for sure, he doesn't have to completely understand my position. But I evidently was not explaining myself (or he was too closed off to hear it) well enough because he just couldn't understand why I was not satisfied. At least now he understands that I am not doing it to "push" him for more or because I enjoy moving the target. But because I simply cannot physically tolerate sex once per week and still refrain from mb and still keep my cheery attitude. He was wanting all of these things from me and I was getting way resentful. His resentment comes in the form of thinking that I am never happy and no matter how much he gives it isn't enough.
Explaining in clear terms and including numbers and days and as much specific info seemed to help a lot. It gave him a concrete picture.
At his core, he just wants to please me. His chances for doing this are greatly improved if he has specific info, right! And the funny thing is we've had this exact convo before, complete with me saying this same thing, but for whatever reason it went well this time, and it clicked.
