Lil, Here is why I thought you must have been thinking of someone else:
Because I never made a move. H did.
He was shy and awkward, yes, but if he didn't make a move, nothing happened. I did not take over, in the way that I do now. I didn't start doing this until a few years ago. I don't particularly care for it.
It's not terrible, but I prefer him to be doing it. However, that's not all that mature of an attitude so I will settle for a little reciprocity. If I am to believe what he says, he does desire me, so there theoretically are times when he wants me. I don't think he has stretched himself at all if he won't even do what he was comfortable doing for the first 6 years of our marriage--being the initiator. It's like he's gotten a taste of me bringing the heat and is now refusing to have it any other way.
