Hi Lil, Yes he did do that. That was before we had ever had any contact at all, even holding hands, so I was not thinking of that. I thought you were talking about once we were in a sexual relationship, kwim?
He was very shy to initiate any contact, in the beginning. We had been on nine dates without so much as a peck and I finally blurted out 'are you gay?' which offended him but got him off his duff.
From then on, he was the sexual initiator and he was quite motivated. He did not let a day pass without it and made his desire obvious. This lasted throughout our courtship and into the first 2 years of marriage. I expected the passion to die down a little after we married but I was taken aback at the abrupt cooling off period that happened right after he started going to church all the time. I didn't know how to handle that, and consequently handled it poorly, and another 4 years ensued before I got up enough nerve to say something. In the meantime we lived separate lives.
But, yes, you are correct. When we first met, he was painfully shy and awkward. After I was "his" he had no problems going after what he wanted and would get irritated if I had to turn him down for any reason.
