Would it have been harder for you to say to your wife "I want to ML" or "I want you" than to physically initiate?
My H will sorta physicially initiate (see above description) but rarely tells me outright. I have given up on the blatant shows of desire from him--it's not in his character and not something he aspires to and I'm fine with that--but I gotta have something kwim?
Before this really became an issue we were ML about 4x per week. So I knew from the frequency alone that he desired me..the fact that he was initiating so frequently absorbed some of the blow of him not saying that he wanted to, or not being that aggressive about it. Now that the frequency has slipped I find myself getting agitated and wanting that elusive more.
But I want to go about this the right way and to address it when the time is right, and you kind folks are helping me get my thoughts in order.
