Quote: What he does now simply does not turn me on.
I feel terrible writing that.
Hi HP... It took me a long time to figure out that my H's awkward/goofy initiations weren't doing it for me, a longer time to communicate this to him, and an even longer time for him to hear me and respond. I think the reason you're not making headway in this area is because he knows that you will come through and drive the interaction ( you aren't LD enough to forgo sex...fortunately). But, you are less HD than you were before all this physical pain entered the picture, and because of this, the dynamics are going to have to change if you are going to keep a regular sex life. The solution is to keep confronting him and letting him know how important this is to you...not much fun, I'm afraid.
