My apologies HP, for filling up your other thread with hijack material.
Quote: I know I shouldn't have pushed the issue (control) but I am so sick of him having the requirement of SEEING my desire first, before he will make a move of his own. If I put on an act, I am being dishonest, if I don't, the whole thing stops on a dime. So who's being controlling?!
I don't mind showing desire but a couple minutes of caressing my stomach and breasts and a light sweep over the bits is just not enough for me to be audibly panting or whatever it is that he's looking for. I do make enjoyment noises..wait, you know what. It's not about what I'm doing or not doing. It's about the fact that he wants to make a small first move, then roll on his back and have me do the rest. That's laziness.
So, I got questions!
He carresses you for a couple of minutes and you just lay there? And then if you begin to show a response, he just flops over and lays there? I'm not sure I get the dynamic.
If NOP carresses me, I carress back. Neither one of us just lays there receiving carresses - well not at least until we're on our way.
Maybe I'm missing something (t'wouldn't be the first time) but is there a place to speak up and say something like "honey, where are we headed with this?" or even "does this mean what I think it means?"
I guess I'm a believer in moving past the point where folks should put their tentative feelers out and instead should speak up. Or does saying it out loud take something away from the experience for you?
