I think you hit the nail on the head of what I thought 'going dark' was when I first found this board in April.
Quote: If a person were to use "going dark" in the spirit of solely "no contact", they would be wasting their time, and setting themselves up for great disappointment.
Reading and rereading this thread has really helped my perspective. The good thing is that things happen when they are supposed to. I don't think I could have done this right at the beginning, so I'm glad to have this tool to use now. I have been trying different shades of grey, and am going to arm myself with them to get thru the holidays with a minimum of fuss.
Thank you for all these great new threads and all the time and effort you spend in moderating. It is very helpful.
