Gwyn~ Correct me if I'm wrong, but you just found out about your H's affair in June right? That is not very long ago and doesn't seem long enough to give any of the techniques you've cited (thought stopping, prayer, etc) a chance to really work. You are not going to wake up and find total forgiveness in your heart two months after you find out your partner for life has betrayed you in the worst possible way. It's going to take time Gwyn!!! You're H may be growing impatient and you need to remind him that it's going to take a LONG time to work through this, but you cannot convey that to your H if you don't understand that yourself. It seems you are sure that separation is what you need right now and it's good that you are listening to your inner voice; it's telling you how to take care of yourself. What have you got going in your life that's good and right and that you can focus on to help take the focus of the A for a while? You need a break, every time you post I hear total desperation.
Heather
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
