Thanks for your post. I know I'm flip-flopping all over the place but I think you're right. I need time and space and I think my H will go along with that but for how long is the question. He is growing very impatient and I'm sure he's not going to sit around while I re-evaluate. He'll be getting a life and that scares me. What if he finds someone else while I'm trying to figure all this out? Man, am I insecure or what? Need advise if he does start dating and doesn't want to work it out anymore.