I know that I have to engage into my R with my H as soon as possible, otherwise, we're going to separate. He tells me that we can cut the tension in the house with a knife. And that's true. I really don't have anything to say to him and I could care less about his daily activities. They bore me. With that said, I want him to open up with me but not about work, etc. I want him to open up with me emotionally and that is where we butt heads. He says he doesn't want to tell me what he's thinking or how he's feeling. Our counselor warned him that avoidance was the most destructive thing he can do in the M, but I guess I cannot "nag" him into doing it. He must be willing and I guess I have to be patient. This is incredible, just like your post - he destroyed a good M but I'm the one doing the work and he sits back and shakes his head in total denial that the M will survive. He's just not sure and I don't think I have the skills to reassure him. Anyone have any tips on skills to reassure H that our M will survive?
