I must agree, you are very wise. Thanks. I'm looking forward to your advise!
I am in counseling but I've steered the Counselor in other ways such as getting in control of my anger. I think I'm beyond that so now I think the real work can start.
I liked your comment that I'm not disrespecting myself, I'm actually doing a noble work - that makes perfect sense and gives me encouragement. Are you a paid counselor? If not, you should be!
I do hold resentment and I'll be the first to admit it because I did not deserve this! We were newlyweds, happily married, even my H will attest to that! Our M was great!! That is whay I cannot understand! The OW didn't mean anything to him, she was helpless, unsophisticated, trashy, sorry, I hate labeling, but I don't know how else to describe her. He felt sorry for her and was there for her. It's unbelievable to me.
I do need to let this go otherwise our M is doomed! I attended a course last night about "forgiving" it was intense and I've made a public prayer to God that I have forgiven H and the OW and I hold fast to that. Now, I believe I can move beyond the pain and start healing and now I think my counselor can help.
I believe it is your opinion, that our M is worth saving. I believe it is too. I have to ask, physically, I cannot be with him. Does that feeling eventually go away?
