Okay. I've posted before but not on this board so I want to brief about my story. I've been married for 3 years, just found out my H had an affair with someone 20 years younger than him for the last 17 months. The A is over, OW moved away but I'm having a very difficult time in recovery. I've read the DR and many other books and am in counseling but I'm no where close to deciding what to do. H is growin impatient and is now talking about D. He said since I cannot make the decision, he'll make it for me. FYI, I found out about the A 4 months ago. I must admit that I have obsessed about the A and have created a mess with my M because I keep my H on the defensive all the time and he's tired of being beat up. I don't want to do this, but I'm just so hurt that I can't seem to let it go. He is very remorseful and has done everything text book to help me reconcile the M, but I won't let him in. Help, from anyone.........
