"Plus I have been trying to compliment her when I can but of course the flowers and card thing is probably not a good idea at this point."
Try complimenting her like you would a friend, not a lover.
Stay away from cards and flowers, unless you're getting good results from them. Which it doesn't sound like you are.
What are her favorite smelling flowers? Maybe do a potpourri with some of them and put them in an inconspicious place, where she won't see them. Sometimes, it helps to to subconscienciously intice a person's senses. Aromatherapy type stuff, you know!
JJ
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