quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- you stopped dressing up, going to the gym, cleaning, taking care of the animals, complimenting me, buying me flowers or cards, everything was different--you didnt have to do anything cuz i married you and you put in no time or effort into anyting except what you wanted
Damn, my man, even if these aren't all the things she's looking for, she's given you a helluva great starting point!
A word of caution here. It's a natural tendency to go overboard in doing all these things she's talking about. What happens is we'll do ALL of these things for a couple of days, and expect big kudos for having changes our ways. When this praise doesn't happen, we throw our arms up and say "What the hell, I'm giving her everything she wants and it's not making a difference. I give up!"
Don't let that happen. Pick out one or two things to start with, and be consistent with them. It's going to take some time to undo any damage that's done done over a period of years. THEY are only going to believe half of what they see, and none of what they hear.
Maybe start with the dressing up around her a bit more first. This might grab her attention the soonest. If you try to do everything at once, this could definitely be seen as persuing, and off she'll go again.
JJ
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