Holy moly KDU...you have alot going on I see! I think you've made some progress...I am going to caution to not go overboard with being demanding...set boundaries, yes, but don't throw out all the DB stuff. H isn't home yet. H is still interacting with OW. Make yourself the OBVIOUSLY better option. What started turning things around was the OW was being demanding, you were not pressuring. So be careful.
