O.K. now for an update I think this rollercoaster is picking up speed again.....Now last update H and I had discussion about waiting a month. Well thru friends I found out he was down the pub with OW the very next day so I thought stuff this and went down there with a friend. I walked straight in and straight up to H (OW was sitting beside him) and said "So this is having a month to yourself is it"? Before H could reply OW opened her mouth and said "What b/c we happen to be in the same place at the same time" So I looked at her and said "You shut your mouth, I am not speaking to you and am not interested in your lies, your car is not in the carpark so I know you came together" She shut up then. Anyhow I looked at H and said "Well don't you have anything to say" H said "No not really as it is not what you think, she knows like you do that I wanted time to myself" I said "Well this is not having it" H said "But there is nothing going on" I said "That doesn't matter you are supposed to be alone" Anyhow that's about all that was said my friend had a few choice things to say to my H and OW but that was nothing to do with me and I did tell her to back off and be quiet. Oh and I did say in front of OW "I don't understand how you can tell me you are moving back home but needed time to break of with her and I gave you that time, you then split with her last Wednesday and come and tell me on my birthday that you are coming home and now this, I just don't understand" OW didn't seem surprised by anything I said so she obviously knew it all and my H just said "Kim nothing has changed that is how it is and OW knows it" I left after that. Well when I got home I got a message from H saying "I am sorry I will call you tomorrow". I didn't reply. H rang me the next day and said he was very sorry and could understand why I was upset but that nothing was going on with her and that she had rung him up and asked him to go over for a coffee and a chat as she needed closure. He said after their chat they decided to go to pub for a drink and that was it. I said "That's fine but it upset me and he said he understood that. I also said to him that I felt she was still playing some sort of game with him as she wasn't going to leave him alone which made it hard for me to trust him during the next month as I wouldn't know if he had weakened to her. He said he understood but it should be fine from now on....Well he came over that night and we chatted about all that stuff and he said he fully understood why I felt insecure...blah blah blah, yes we ML and chatted about his work and stuff and he went home about and hour and a half later. I didn't speak to him Wednesday or Thursday but had sent him a text message Wed morning and didn't get a reply until Wed night. Well this told me that he was probably with her as that is the only time he doesn't have his phone. So I did nothing and when he rang me Friday morning at work to put his Footy Tips in, I calmly said "Why did you spend alot of time with OW on Wednesday and Thursday, when you had told me that wouldn't be happening" He said "My god I can't believe you know about that but let me explain" I said "Go for it" He said "Brett had a problem at work on Wednesday with Phil(Their boss) and walked out(Brett is OW's son and H likes him alot). He said "OW had rung him and asked if he could go around and speak to Brett, which he apparently did and offered some advice and made a few calls. He then went around Thursday when she rang him as she had had a meeting at their workplace and asked him to go around for a coffee while she told him what had happened. H said that is all there was to it and in future if you find out I am with her ring me and I will tell you then and there what is going on. I said thats a bit hard when you don't take your phone. Anyhow I said "Whatever I just don't see how this is working out, she is always going to have an excuse and it seems you are always going to go running. I have left you alone like you asked but for what??? H said I know you have and I have noticed that, there is nothing going on with OW but I can see why you worry about it and I have been thinking about you alot. I said yeah well I don't feel comfortable about this but I will leave you alone, I will catch you next week when you pick up S. Well that night I was at the Shopping Centre and just in my car to leave when my mobile rang and it was H....this is how the convo went....
M: Hello
H: G'day how are you
M: Yeah good thanks
H: Whose voice was that when you answered (Radio was on)
M: Nobody just the radio
H: Where are you? Are you out?
M: Just leaving the Shopping Centre.
H: Are you going home now?
M: Yeah to unload my shopping
H: Are you going out after that?
M: I haven't decided yet but as I don't have the kids
I probably wont stay home all night (Mum had kids).
H: Oh who are you going out with?
M: I haven't decided yet, I have had a couple of offers.
What's with all the questions aren't you at work?
H: Yes I am, I just thought if you were going down the pub
I might meet you there after work.
M: So are you asking me to go out for a drink?
H: Well if you have other plans, I don't want to interfere
but if you are going down there with someone, I could
meet you after work.
M: So are you saying you will only meet me there if I am
going with someone else?
H: No why do you have to read so much into things.
M: I'm not but your not being clear and I want to
make sure I am clear on what you are asking.
H: O.K. would you like to meet me after work for a
drink.
M: Yes I would.
H: Did you have plans?
M: Only tentative, Darren & Tania said they may go
down the pub, but I haven't spoken to them yet.
H: Well send me a text.
M: O.K.
H: Alright I will speak to you later.
M: O.K. see ya later.
I couldn't believe the way this conversation went but I wasn't going to make it that easy. Anyhow I spoke to the other couple who were going to the pub and they said they would pick me up on the way. So I texted H and told him we would meet him there. We did and had a good night and then Tania & Darren were going home and asked if I wanted a lift and H said No I will drop her home. So he took me home and came in and stayed the night and didn't leave until he had to go to work the next day. I didn't ask him what all this meant just said "thanks I enjoyed the time we had" H said he did too....That was that, I didn't hear from him for the rest of the day and Sunday I had to message him as my Sons bike had a flat and he needed it for school the next day and I couldn't undo the bolt that held on the wheel. H said he would come over straight after work. Which he did, he fixed the wheel and then said he had to go as he had an early start the next day, he gave me a cuddle and a kiss and I said "Is everything alright with you" and he said "Yeah I am just very tired it has been busy at work" I said "Well I guess I will hear from you later in the week" H said "yes" so I said "O.K. see ya later and thankyou as I wouldn't have been able to fix the bike on my own" H said "No problem" and that was that. So as you can see it has been a fairly eventful week and who knows what I am to make of it all. I can only say that any other time I have quizzed him about OW he has got very defensive and quite blunt on the phone and this time he does not seem to be the same he seems quite intent on explaining what has been going on. Do I believe him, I think so but who really knows. I am just playing things cool and we will see so now you can see how I said I think my rollercoaster is picking up speed. OW is certainly making sure she tries to hold on to him by making him feel important and needed as an excuse to see him so I can only hope that he sees her as pursuing and me as doing what he asked. Maybe that will make him miss me more....Sorry for the longwinded update but there you have it if you stayed long enough to read this then thankyou...Until next drama....KDU


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