Thankyou very much everyone for your lovely thoughts. Update.... H did ring me later on the night of my birthday, which was nice. He came over the next night (Friday) and we had a chat, gave him a massage and then went to pub for a few drinks b4 he went to work.(Softdrinks) All of which was nice. Saturday I went over to his van he slept most of the time and I tidied it up for him. I left about 2 in the afternoon and went home as I was going out that night. Things were not overly flowing as well as I had hoped anyway H came over Sunday afternoon and we ended up in a fairly deep discussion. We both got to say alot and we have decided that he should take a month to be completely on his own as all he has done is jump from me to OW and back and forth and not committed 100% to anyone and now should take a couple of weeks to be totally alone and make sure that coming home is the right thing and so he can give it 100% with no doubts or regrets. This decision I think is for the best and a big risk on my behalf but what will be will be and I really think he needs to be without OW for a bit on his own b4 we can work, he needs to grieve their R or be happy it's over or he is never going to give us 100% and may have regrets and I don't want to be back to this, I want our R to work properly when we give it another go. I realise this could work against me but it truly must be done. Hopefully in a few weeks he will say he can't live without me but if not I would rather know now rather than later in a few months when I have got attached again. So there is a bit of a shock for you all but it really is for the best I think and I hope. OW must get out of their systems and as he broke it off with her and swears he will have no contact I have to believe it and wait and see.......KDU
