My W says I wasn't affectionate enough in the relationship that I cared only about myself. Now going "dark" has worked in the past with her initiating contact but it seems I have to keep doing it as she pulls away. Go dark she comes, go light she pulls back. I want to try something different and although going dark works I am not sure it is the most effective too I could be using. Any ideas how I can be affectionate to W and not be pursuing?
