O.K. guys here we go.....Yesterday when H came back to the office I acted a bit stand offish but cheerful. I didn't kiss him or anything he kissed me goodbye and I turned my cheek rather than offer my lips and he said he'd see me tomorrow. I said yep no worries must go gotta pick up S. As I pulled out he waved to me about 3 times and i waved back just the once. I thought to myself lets see him start pursuing, it was going to take all my effort but that is what I thought I would do. Well today is my birthday and I hadn't had a phone call or anything from H and I was getting very annoyed. Then about 2hours ago he pulls up at work and waltzes in and says "Happy Birthday" no kiss. I looked up and said Thankyou and then continued at my keyboard. He then said "Hey were you upset with me last night?" I replied "No not upset just giving you space and allowing you to control our contact". He said "Are you getting impatient" and I said "Well I wont deny that I am eager for it to be over but I promised you I would be patient and not pressure and I believe I am doing that" He said "Yes you have" and I said "Good as I am trying". H then said "How come you haven't tried to give me a kiss or a cuddle yet" and I said " b/c I am letting you make the moves at the moment" He said "Kim, you have always been the one that has shown your affection outward, I never have, but I like that about you, I like it when you kiss me and show affection and that's when I like to give it back. I said "I just thought you may have found it smothering and I don't want to make you feel any more pressured than I am sure you already do" He said "Kim don't read so much into things, just be yourself, I know what you are like, it's fine". I just smiled and said "O.K. but the whole thing is difficult" He said "I know but this should make you happy" and I looked at him and with a sheepish grin he said "I broke it of with her last night - it's over". Well knock me over with a feather, that was the last thing I expected him to say, my god, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry so I just gave him a huge hug and said "Thankyou so much, this is the best birthday present ever" H said "I know" So anyway we were a bit cuddly for awhile and spoke about a few things, which I will tell you all in a minute and then said "Come on, I need your carkeys", I said "Why" and he said "Well i have some presents in the car for you and I want to put them in your car as when you get home you can tell the kids I put them there and they can give them to you". So of course I gave him my keys and nearly hi-fived myself as I was dancing around my office in total ecstasy. Anyhow he came back in smooched again and said he needed to go home for a sleep(he is working a nightshift for next 4 nights)and that he would ring me tonight and would come over tomorrow night between me getting home and him going to work....We also discussed when he was here a few things and this is in no particular order as I don't remember the exact order but.....
He again said he doesn't want to see her outside of work. When asked if he could resist her advances if she made any he said yes as he has made his decision and that wont change...He will give notice on his van and be able to move back into house in 2 weeks....He is going to take a month off work, when he moves back to give us a good go at it alone and said he feels shitty for the heartache he has caused 2 people recently (me and OW) but that even though he feels bad he knows he has made the right decision....
So guys and gals as you can imagine I am on cloud nine, I know I know he is not home yet and alot could happen (Although it wouldn't want to) but it is one very very good sign. I will keep you informed of the goings on but it will be in big letters the day he comes home....O.K. words of advice and caution bring it on I need some levelling as my head is in the clouds so lay it on me it might make me calmer.....KDU


"FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT!!"(quote:Anna)