I think it is a huge positive that he realizes he can't have contact with her out of respect for you. It's also good that he brought it up, and answered your question calmly, and seems like he had thought about it. I have to say I would like to see him get another job for your sake, but can understand he won't leave that one until he finds one. Maybe something to look for is when he comes home, does he start looking for another job? That would give you the reassurance he is serious. Also, at some point he will have to realize that his life is going to have to be an open book to you...and he will need to understand if you feel the need to check up on him during the day. I think when the spouse that has been unfaithful can be understanding of that and can handle it without getting frustrated, it is a huge advantage in your healing. When my H cheated the 1st time, he figured when I forgave him, it meant I just automatically had to start trusting him again too. He always resented it if I questioned him, saying it made him feel like a child who was being punished. So his attitude toward it will play a role also.
