I AM MOVING ON FROM H & OW

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KDU...I'm going to ask the same question BB asked, is it possible that H get another job? I think that once H does move back home and OW knows this, I'm sure she will make it hard for him; plus her friends that work there too will probably make it hard on him. Would this make H angry towards you if this were to happen? Can he make a transfer or work a different shift away from OW? In my opinion if a WAS is serious about working on the M I would think they would want to do what was right, i.e. no more contact with OP, if they work together WAS would need to find employment elsewhere, counseling for themselves because I'm sure there is a lot of guilt that they need to deal with.

My question is this, do I apply pressure now about him and her being friends, and ask does he still expect to see her as a friend outside of work, or do I just wait and see what happens for the moment and tackle it when he comes home

I wouldn't put pressure on him right now about OW. Once H is 100 percent committed to working on the M, then I would tell H that he have no more contact with OW...period. A marriage is between 2 people, not 3.

I know you are excited that H is "thinking" about coming home and working on the M...please don't get your hopes up too high. I really don't want to see you get hurt all over again. (((((KDU))))