BB thankyou so much for those kind works. You have made me feel a bit more positive about my conversation with H. I will act all happy when I see him tonight which I always try and do and I wont bring anything up and will just answer him with my DB skills in mind. I will show him that he is missing out on something by seeming upbeat and happy and as though I don't have a care in the world. The one thing I might entice him to talk about as we usually have a coffee when he picks up S is his problems at work. He obviously turned to OW as she was kind and understanding and listened to his so called problems so I guess that is what I need to be now. I will listen and try to come up with ideas for him to cope better with the pressures of work and validate him throughout it all. Thanks BB you have made me look at this and find the next thing to focus on with H and I think this is the safest place to start as it is all about him and him only when we talk about his work and I think that behind his own R problems that is probably his next biggest worry. I feel a lot more positive now that I have something to work towards tonight so again I thank you for focusing me. Now what is a Shrewish Harpy I may be a bit dumb I have never heard that expression before maybe we are a bit behind down under. Enlighten me please as it sounded awfully funny what you were saying but I don't think I got the whole gist of it. Glad I have been of some assistance to you on your thread thanks for that and trust me you return the favour each time you post here.....KDU
