HOORAY, KIM! You sound good. I hope you feel as good as you sound.

Your conversation went really well. I especially liked this part:
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I said to H, yes I can understand that and quite frankly I have had enough of her trying to form a wedge between us with her insecurities. I cannot make you believe that I am telling the truth so I am not going to bother,...



You're doing great. The only advice I have for you to consider is to remember that it's really starting to look like she's becoming the shrewish harpy, and H will resist that. I mean come on, who loves a shrewish harpy? Next time you go to the pub ask around. You may find a few drunks who thought you asked if they'd love a fewish Harpers but outside of that, nobody. Ask anybody you meet on the street tomorrow if they love a shrewish harpy. I predict no takers. Unless maybe you're in L.A. because some of those folks'll say anything just to be different.

Point is, you're in perfect position to be the exact opposite of the shrewish harpy; you are the ultra-secure, self-loving, life-affirming, DB'er who just wants a happy life with her H. It may take him some time to really believe that, so that's what you want to show as often as you can. Try hard not to ask if he's giving your proposal any thought. He is. At worst he's intentionally pushing it out of his mind (which still requires some thought). And if that's the case you'll have to start handling things differently in the future. But for now just let her apply the pressure and push him away. All you wanna do is give him a space to get pushed into.

Do you remember when you coaxed an update out of me that really helped me vent a little when I needed to? I want to try to return the favor. Have you got something to do this weekend, something fun, maybe a little different from what you usually do? Some type of GAL thing? If so, what is it? If not, maybe you should take an assignment to come up with something. And if you have a good excuse this weekend when do you think you might make this work up?

Meanwhile, keep smiling (or start smiling) I'm cheering for you!

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