Yes KDK you are right we will wait and see first I suppose. Journalling.... Spoke to H this morning he is picking up S tonight. Apparently OW messaged him at work Wednesday night to say someone rang her and said "He was not along when you were in hospital" and hung up. (Now I did not do this I haven't contacted her at all.) H asked me if I knew anything about it and I said No I dont, I made you a promise that I wouldn't speak to her even if she rang so why would I ring her. H said Look I don't know I am just sick of this $hit, I never know who to believe. I said to H, yes I can understand that and quite frankly I have had enough of her trying to form a wedge between us with her insecurities. I cannot make you believe that I am telling the truth so I am not going to bother, but if she is that insecure she is going to keep coming up with the bull$hit phone calls every couple of weeks hoping that you admit that you have been with me as that is what you did the first few times. She suckered you into spilling your guts and is trying to catch you out again. Whether we are doing anything or not she is always going to think that you are so I guess that is something you will have to sort out with her. All I can say is why don't you look at her behaviour and how much she made you pay when you did admit something was going on and the last 2 times you've denied it and not given it the time of day and she has just let it drop. That to me is someone that knows she is not getting anywhere with her accusations so she leaves it alone. If she truly had a call she would be asking for more explanations from you. H then agreed that she has let it drop a bit easy the last 2 times and I said there you go all you can do is compare her reactions and make up your own mind. He agreed and then went on about how difficult work was and that it was very busy so I listened and made the necessary remarks to make him feel worthwhile and then he mentioned that he had told one of his bosses that if things didn't improve at work in the next month he would be considering resigning. He then said not that I can really afford to do that but it is what I felt. I said well you know you have options there from our talk and he said yeah I know. I then did say have you been giving our conversation any thought or have you been too busy and tired. H said I have been busy and tired but I am not sleeping very well as that is all I have been thinking about. I said O.K. well at least your thinking seriously about it so I will leave it alone but do try and get some sleep. He then said he would try and that he would see me when he picked up S, I said yep that's fine I've got to get going now anyhow so I will see you later. We said our goodbye's and that was that. So it was a very civilised conversation which is good but I am so mad at OW for filling his head with cr@p phone calls but then maybe she is playing into my hands with her insecurities as H really seems to be sick of answering to her about me. Mind you he is keeping a secret from her. So it will be interesting to see what he has to say tonight KDU
