Thankyou so much guys you really are helping through this waiting game. Yes I will try and plan to do something this week although it could be a bit hard but next week I will have something to say as it is my birthday so I will have lots to do next week. Hellkat naked and chickens Mmmmmm I wonder if I should do that (LOL) did that make me laugh....Honestly guys I really appreciate your support as by coming to these boards it calms me down as I am sure you all know I am very anxious about his decision and I constantly want to contact him but I wont...You see he normally rings me every day and if he doesn't I notice it...By not speaking and seeing him as much I am giving him easy time with OW and this could go against me as she may seem great in his eyes without me in the picture. Oh well it will be what it will be I guess. Hey just a thought b/c of his playfulness yesterday or rather I heard a suggestive tone what do I do if he wants to ML On the one hand I could say Look I don't think that's a good idea while your coming to a decision. BUT then again I know Michelle says that sometimes that is all you have and it can be the saviour as when your ML your emotions come forward and it can help you remember your feelings for each other its a real catch 22....Opinions on this would be good from both sides......I hope I haven't pushed him to OW by my proposition as could I have pushed him to make a decision he is not ready to make yet could he have needed more time to see it's not going to work with OW aaaargh here I go doubting myself again. BB, NYS, DMF how about a male opinion if you can put yourself into WAS's shoes...have I pushed him......Girls I want your opinions too so fire away it will at least keep my mind busy and thankyou so much for looking in on me.....KDU