Thanks each and everyone of you who has wished me luck with this new sitch, I really appreciate it and some of the funny little comments too. Today is Tuesday here and i didn't hear from H yesterday at all and I didn't contact him either. For the past week he has rung me every day until I dropped my own bomb in his lap Sunday. Anyhow today he has rung it was just a quick call H: G'day M: Oh hello and how are you (with a smile in my voice) H: Busy and tired and you M: Yeah I am fine, what a bugger work is so busy H: Yeah it's just how it is these days....Hey as son played away on the weekend for footy does that mean he has a home game this week? M: No unfortunately its away. H: Damn M: Is that cause you thought you could make it (H is working a night shift Sat Night) H: Yeah I just dont know yet M: Oh well just see how you are feeling, I guess, I can remind S that you had to work late. H: Yeah I s'pose that's all I can do. SILENCE H: Well it was just a quick call to say hi M: No worries and thanks for calling it was nice to speak to you. H: Yes it was M: Well feel free whenever you feel the need H: To chat M: Whatever no no just to chat I better not stir you up that could make things hard..I mean difficult... H: Mmmmm you do get me worked up and I know you love to I will speak to you soon M: Yep no worries bye and I hung up........ So I was nice and playful when he called for it but that was all. I know if I had said I was there for him on an intimate level he would have taken it up but I think that has to be on a backburner so as he can make up his mind clearly.....I am glad he rang but no closer to knowing what is going on in his head and neither of us mentioned it. It has only been 2 days...... Now BB yes I hear what you are saying and I am prepared when he finally speaks to me that if he says he needs more time I will ask how much time he thinks he needs and then probably agree to it but I will probably say something like feel free to talk to me about any obstacles you might be facing as if I can offer you a solution or an alternative I would like to but if you prefer to do this completely on your own I will repect that. But he has to come and say that first....As for looking after me, that is not easy, my children are well clothed and well fed but I just feel a bit neglectful of them as I work full time and by the time I get home it is around 5.30pm and then cook tea, serve tea, clean up kitchen and do dishes. It is then time to do lunches for the next day, one or two loads of washing and a little cleaning by then it is about 8.00pm and time to get 9yo ready for bed as he goes at 8.30pm. Then i sit down for about an hour or two b4 going to bed myself. So I am not getting much relax time or rec time with the kids. Weekends is filled with housecleaning and a bit of interaction with kids. So I am too busy at the moment to concentrate on me might be a bit of a cop out but it is true at the moment but I will reread what you have said in a week or two and in the meantime I will think about it.....Thanks for everyones advice I really appreciate it and keep it coming please.....KDU
