I AM MOVING ON FROM H & OW

[Burgbud]

M: Mmmmmm well only you can work that out and I want you to come to your own conclusions with pressure from nobody..

Beautiful. Your shoulder oughta be sore from patting yourself on the back for that one.

...I don't know if I am being used for se#...

Doesn't seem likely. Why would he need to use anybody for sex when he's got Ow? Doesn't he get all the sex he wants already?

H: I don't want to give you false hope with all this
(Like that hasn't been said b4) but I do want to see where
this takes us as I don't know if we are finished yet or not and I am hoping this will help to find out.

I think this is believable. He doesn't want to give you false hope because he doesn't know what he wants. He's afraid he might flip back and he doesn't want that to hurt you (even though he knows deep down that of course it would hurt you...but he's all wrapped up in what *he* wants right now, isn't he?). But even that is hope (as long as expectations are kept in check!). Still, you're in an awkward situation while he's still got one foot in each world. You might want to start thinking about what boundaries you might need to enforce. How long will you let this go on? If you're thinking something like "I can't take this much more than three months" or something similar, you're probably OK. But if you're thinking, "This isn't so bad, I don't know what would make me cut him off" then you probably want to rethink before you're too caught up in it.

If you'd never met him or if you didn't have anything more to do with him, what kind of person would you want to become? If you became that person, would that attract him to you? If not, would you be happier as that person without him? What kind of man *would* be attracted to you if you were that person?

Stop waiting! Become that person! For you and him or whoever else may end up in your life!!!

Then come back here and post how you did it; I could use a hint myself.

Good luck!!